She said, "Do know your goals for what you're looking for — what are your intimacy and relationship needs?
Don't put up photos that are offensive or deceiving or that don't demonstrate who it is you really are." Even though photos are very important, don't discard a potential match just because of their appearance.
David Bennett, certified counselor, relationship expert and co-author of seven self-help books, told me, "Studies show most people base online dating primarily on the photos. " Relationships are complex, and it's important to recognize them as such.
Whether you love it or hate it, online dating is here to stay. And there are no hard and fast rules for how to do it right.
It seems like most people use apps like Tinder and Bumble or sites like OKCupid and to find the next person they're going to date. I went to the experts to find out their suggestions for what you should and shouldn't do when you're online dating.
One of the most important things you can do when online dating is protect yourself. told me, "While dating online can produce long lasting relationships and happiness, sadly, the internet can be a place where people scam others and invade privacy." Be especially careful when meeting someone for the first time. Kulaga added, "When you go out on a first date, make sure that friends or family know where you are going and never go to someone's house alone.
Unlike meeting a potential partner through a mutual friend, you don't know much about the people you meet online. Make sure that your first date is somewhere in public (movies, dinner, theme park, etc). " While it might be tempting to use glamour shots of you that were taken ten years ago, don't do it.
Celebrate your mismatches instead of getting upset about them. Kulaga's words, "Be happy the person didn't come through and you didn't waste any more of your precious time.
Move on." Instead of dwelling on rejections, spend your time remembering what's great about you.
However, you want to keep your bigger goals in mind when entering some of these dating sites." She added, "If your desire is to find someone looking for a long term relationship, you wouldn't want to sign up for a dating site that is known for short term flings.
You are doing yourself a disservice when you waste time and energy on dealing with things that don't directly impact your bigger goal." Speaking of choosing apps carefully when online dating, it's a good idea not to limit yourself to just one.
Unfortunately, these sites encourage people to judge based on physicality, more than the content of character — that's the nature of the online/app dating game." Krimer added, "To maximize your success in meeting the right person, have photographs that are reflective of who you are and what you look like.