I was totally creeped out and told him that it was not allowed.That’s not necessarily a company-wide policy but he was absolutely giving the impression at this point that he wanted to ask me out.
I met a girl in a seminar just after graduating college.
We had both recently moved to the city and were both in the trenches searching for internships.
And that’s doubly true as someone new to the workforce; it’s going to come across as a bit prima donna-ish at any career stage, but especially as someone junior. Would that not be a good weakness to reveal during an interview?
Nope, it’s going to sound disingenuous, whether or not it actually is.
It’s too much in the model of “I’m a perfectionist” or “I work too hard” or other attempts to answer with something the applicant hopes the interviewer will actually see as a strength.
(Perfectionism can actually be a crippling weakness, so it’s always weird when people don’t realize that.) 5.
They’re pretty basic “I’ll be leaving company X for company Y.
If you need to get in touch with me in the future, here’s how” kind of stuff.
You answered it as if it were any other question about company policies, rather than the gross, out-of-line statement that it was. ” followed by, “I’m having trouble understanding this question as anything other than wildly inappropriate.” Followed by keeping a really close eye on him, because someone who does this is usually someone who’s going to have loads of other problems too (as you saw later that day).
I don’t blame you for that; it’s hard to have a perfect answer in the moment when you’re so taken off-guard. Frankly, it’s so wildly inappropriate and indicative of other likely problems that it also wouldn’t have been unwarranted to revisit the question of whether you’d made the right hire (had he not taken care of that for you a few hours later). I don’t want to be a reference for my lazy acquaintance I’m finding myself in between a rock and hard place.
It could be as simple as: “I feel awkward about this, Jane, but I wouldn’t be comfortable being a reference for you. ” If she asks why, you could say, “Well, at Teapots Inc., you didn’t seem to be all that engaged in the work.