It could be as simple as: “I feel awkward about this, Jane, but I wouldn’t be comfortable being a reference for you. ” If she asks why, you could say, “Well, at Teapots Inc., you didn’t seem to be all that engaged in the work.To be a reference, I’d need to talk about your work ethic, initiative, and general quality of work, and I don’t feel like I can do that in a way that would help you.” You really would be helping her out if you let her know that — whether or not she appreciates it at the time.
I’ve written that up, and made a list of who I’d like to send it to. Do I send it from my company email address while it’s still active, or my personal gmail?
Do I push it out before my two weeks at my current company are up, or wait until the two week gap in between jobs?
I was totally creeped out and told him that it was not allowed.
That’s not necessarily a company-wide policy but he was absolutely giving the impression at this point that he wanted to ask me out.
And whether or not she does this, if she drops your name to a hiring manager, you should be honest: “Jane and I did work together, but she’s not someone I’d recommend hiring” (and then explain why). Negotiating a gym membership as part of a job offer I’m in the interview process with a company for a job I’m really interested in, and things seem to be going well.
I’m optimistic about my chances, and expect a job offer in the next week or so if things continue to go well.I guess the saving grace of this is that he only lasted for another four hours and then quit because the job turned out to be “more physically demanding than he expected.” But what would be your advice for handling a situation with an employee who shows a red flag right after the hiring process is completed?Make it clearer in the moment that the question is wildly inappropriate.And that’s doubly true as someone new to the workforce; it’s going to come across as a bit prima donna-ish at any career stage, but especially as someone junior. Would that not be a good weakness to reveal during an interview?Nope, it’s going to sound disingenuous, whether or not it actually is.However, this is my first job out of college, and I’d like to get my feet wet with negotiations.