You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. If you are not married yet, sex will hurt your relationship and your discernment process for marriage.
Premarital sex will hurt the marriage, not help it.
Rather, good timing honors the sanctity of romantic emotions and their rightful end (Song of Solomon 8:4). I fear what that view of sexuality would look like in marriage.
It isn't that popular Christian conceptions of dating boundaries are too big, but that their scope is too small. It will draw boundaries that reflect the full personhood of each individual by showing concern for every aspect of each individual—personal, emotional, moral, and sexual, to name only a few of those many interrelated aspects. Personal agency maintained by good boundaries furnishes romantic intimacy with meaning and substance.
We ask physical and quantitative questions: “How many inches can I move my hand? So here are some ways to think about not only physical boundaries but also several fundamental aspects of personhood. Love presupposes freedom, and freedom presupposes the relational safety to say “no.” (2) Emotional boundaries promote relational health.
And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power.
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? When you sin sexually, you are making God’s temple into a prostitute.
After we had messed up, I told him that we needed to set boundaries. In the book of Solomon, Solomon’s wife describes their relationship, “His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me! It is never too late to have a talk about boundaries or change your boundaries. If you are walking with God, living by the power of the Holy Spirit, and working through all the questions above, I believe you will know if you and your boyfriend can hug and cuddle and to what extent.
We could have avoided this confusion if we would have set boundaries day one. In high school, I could have made out with a stranger and not felt guilty. I know he loved God, but I don’t think his desire to pursue purity was as big as my desire. I tried to give him opportunities to set boundaries. I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.” (Solomon 2:6-7). If the Holy Spirit is convicting you about something, you have to listen. Remember, pleasing God is way more important that pleasing your flesh.
I know you may think this is okay because you want to get married and may even be engaged, but I would urge you to wait.
God knows what is best for you and longs to protect your heart.
But a truly Christian conception of boundaries in dating will not only draw physical boundaries (as if dating was merely a relationship between two Christian bodies).