Now, some members of our demographic flourish in church whether it has a singles ministry or not.
But some say they need a divorced minister to understand the complexities of divorced Christians.
Sometimes it seems the reasons people think we're not already married—that we're petulant, self-indulgent, and indecisive—are the very reasons singles programs generally have short life cycles.
Instead, we should be gracious toward those in authority in our church, even those who view us skeptically.
Even Christ Himself, the Holy Bachelor, never spoke at a singles conference, did he?
Does all of this relative silence concerning marital status convey something significant about singles in the church?
If your church doesn't have ministries for married people by age and stage, should the singles expect such programs?
How much stratification within the congregation can occur before community gets weakened?Whenever your church's children's ministry needs more workers, do they ask the singles class first?With all of the misconceptions people hold about us, we singles exist as the ghost demographic in most churches, don't we?Many churches simply hope we get married so they don't have to figure us out. Others view singles as mysterious peculiarities needing either coddling or discipline.Meanwhile, many of us wonder why we're being pigeonholed by marital status anyway?Perhaps you've already scoured 1 Corinthians 7, his treatise advocating celibacy, perplexed by its counterculturalism.