well, looks like we share the same story, my ex-cheated as well, and they have kids.what can we do and live life. I live in a drama-free bubble and enjoy my life with friends. Dear S, Would you say you saved yourself from the wrong relationship and would you say that you cut yourself free from having kids and being tied down? Sometimes you just get caught up in being too responsible that you ever fit normal. Thats good the girlfriend left him because that was not on his mind anyway. He must be sad for wasting that woma's five beautiful years when he did not know what he wanted not for being left. I've got to tell you honestly though, have your kids when you can afford to and while you still have the energy. And being clean about yourself, your home or apt, your car. I am 38 years of age and my ex gf had two children of her own from a past relationship, I spent all my life searching for the right girl to have a child with and thought I found her.
I have not been with any man so far, just have a lot of friends, yes it gets lonely, but at least I know I am true to myself, so my dear, its no crime to be single and no kids. I have no desire to be in a relationship because it's too much work and can be very stressful at times. One thing about waiting, many of the people you meet may have a child already. If she's the right one for you, then it should all fall into place. Sad to say we had ourselves a miscarriage and lost the opportunity!
i always wanted to have a family myself, but the way she turned out to be it was a good thing that i didn't have kids with her. I am now 46 and still haven't been on a date for a long time. I think because I've always wanted that type of committment.
But I faith that finding the right person and having that family will happen.
Just be patient - the saying " Something Worth Having Is Something Worth Waiting For"Think of your favorite flower, it's a seed that goes into the ground covered in dirt, slowly with sunshine and water it grows and with TIME and finally blooms into the perfect flower that you love to look at.
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No matter what side of the fence you’re on both can agree that this is a very controversial and moralistically sensitive topic. The touch of a hand, an innocent conversation, a glance?
I understand it's nice to have someone to share things with ... But so many people I know settled just to have what society thinks is 'normal' ...married with kids. I have so many educated & beautiful single girlfriends in their 30's.
but I have a great job, great family/friends, own my house, and am independent. I know in the 50's, it would be more uncommon, but today I'd say about half of my friends in their 30's are single. His father left us when I had back surgery & apparently that was too hard of him to stick around and help!! But I'm now a single mom, which has its own stigma.
the children are the ones that always seem to suffer, since they are so very innocent. If the man is 35 and not married yet...there is something wrong with him. The time factor is key I guess; also working on yourself.
in fact, 50 percent of marriages are ending in divorce and that is very sad unlike years ago when both men and women were very committed to one another. My latest ex gf is recently engaged after knowing her gf for a year.
Is it normal to not have kids or married at my age?