When men act out in whatever way they act out, you’ll find what I just described at the heart of the matter: a deep feeling of separateness, insignificance and undesirability.
When you can accept him as he is, you start to show him a path towards filling that void.
When you can recognize what he “gets” from his behavior and you can truly understand him as a man, you might not take his actions personally anymore.
You say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl.
Maybe what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. Oftentimes, we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…
But let’s say that you were satisfying his every need.
Why would he be having these sexy, flirtatious conversations with these other women?And now, a little over a year into the relationship you’re disappointed that he’s still the same guy… People do this all the time, but it doesn’t make it right or sane.The fact is, this whole pattern of people projecting a fantasy version of someone onto the actual person is ludicrous.I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.I give him everything that he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally, but still he flirts with other girls and has sexy conversations with them. You’re making a whole lot of assumptions in your question…Instead, you’re focusing on how YOU feel about it and that YOU don’t like it. You can feel hurt and victimized or you can open your eyes to the bigger picture…