"Give each other mini foot massages while watching the evening news," suggests Laura Corn, author of 101 Nights of Grrreat Romance (Park Avenue Publishers, 1995)."Or lay your head in his lap and let him stroke your hair." For the ultimate drive-in date experience, invest in an extralong extension cord and watch TV outside on the deck or on lawn chairs on the front stoop underneath the stars.
Here, easy but so-worth-it ways to jump-start both of your hearts.
Share a Secret Code Pick a word that's likely to come up occasionally in conversation (heat, midnight, bedroom, whipped cream...) and agree that every time someone uses it, you have to touch — anything from a kiss to a lingering thigh stroke under the table.
Pop in the Marc Anthony CD, then press your pelvises together, entwine your legs, and twist and twirl around the living room. "The way you stand hip-to-hip, block out the world, and sway to each other's rhythms..you're really cookin'." Outlaw Grunge-Wear You and your guy are having a Blockbuster night.
But wait, think twice before you change into your lounging-on-the-couch clothes... That gear isn't exactly a recipe for a night of making googly eyes.
Play the Dating Game Get out of the same old Saturday-night film-and-food groove.
For your next date, come up with three out-of-the-ordinary evening ideas — perhaps a starlit ferry ride, a game of mini golf, dinner at a restaurant with a kind of food you've never tried, or even seen, before — and write them down on index cards, suggests David D. How to Stop Revolving and Start Evolving in Relationships (Prima Publishing, 1999).
We talked about the places we'd love to travel to, the crazy things we'd like to try just once in our lives, and our hands kept touching — we just got completely lost in each other as we did this mindless activity.
It was so sweet and oddly intimate that I haven't bothered to get the dishwasher fixed." Touch Tenderly in Front of the TV When you're both chilling out in front of the tube, heat things up with some hands-on action.
Instead, slip into something a little more comfortable but a lot more cuddle-enticing.
"A fitted T-shirt or a semisheer tank top, especially when worn without a bra, is a lot sexier than some too-big shirt you're swimming in," says fashion designer and Cosmo contributing editor Shoshanna Lonstein.
Flash Him When no one's looking, give your guy a sneak peek in public.