How exactly does one make the most of being alone, but avoid being lonely? It can be difficult to get “just the girls” together sometimes, especially as we couple-up and get a little older. Instead of waiting for a girlfriend’s schedule to match up with yours, buy one ticket for that new film you’ve been talking about. Because when you do find yourself in a relationship again, you won’t find success if you’re not happy with who you are first.
You’ll have a hard time sulking over being alone (and thus, feeling lonely), if you have a jam-packed calendar. Whether you’re single or not, I believe that brain dumping at the end of the day is super cathartic and helps manage your thoughts and feelings.
That means taking a minute to become aware of what's happening around you in the moment.
I had moved into adulthood alongside another person who influenced the woman I grew to be, whether I realized it or not. For example, it may seem strange to go out to dinner, see a movie in the theatre, or take a cooking class solo. I can stay out with my friends until bar close and not wake anyone up when I get into bed. Spontaneously decide to visit a friend in another state for the weekend. No matter what, give yourself room to figure out what makes you a unique and awesome person.
I found this fantastic Oscar Wilde quote, and it really hit a nerve for me: Here I am now, single and re-evaluating being just me, not defined by anyone else. Getting dressed up, buying new lipstick, venting about old flames, and generally having a fun night out with your girlfriends isn’t reserved for post-break-up sadness. Challenge yourself to think otherwise—nothing is restricted just because you’re single. Take all the time you need, and be a little selfish.
I work for myself, I wake up excited to get productive, I’ve got a healthy lifestyle and I have a lot of people around that I love.
Instead of feeling crappy that I’m still single, I would rather count my blessings, as they say.
.) But some of us are just as happy — if not happier — by ourselves than we are with other people, even if there are wonderful people in our lives.
And it turns out, there's nothing inherently wrong with that.
Another great way to get more in touch with your inner world: journaling, he says.
Then, consider trying going to a movie or out to lunch by yourself.
And I don’t think I’m the only single girl who feels that way. If people assume that I’m lonely because I’m single, that probably means that they’re in relationships and that they can’t imagine being on their own. Are they using their partners so they don’t feel alone? Cove is a gamified dating app that solves this problem.
Instead of protecting how they feel onto me, they should think about their own lives. Of course there are times when I question why I haven’t met the right guy and yet, for the most part, I’m confident in the journey that I’m on. All guys on the app are verified and vetted, and have to pay a cover charge to interact with you. Aya Tsintziras Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor.
In fact, you'll get some serious benefits from taking (and enjoying) that alone time.