What do you do when you realize your teen is lying to you more and more often?
Likewise when your teen comes to you requesting that an exception be made to a rule or a permanent change made to a curfew then it is vital that as a parent you listen to their reasons.
Try to understand what is important for you teenager in this instance. Once you have listened to them think about what is at stake for you and see if you can find a compromise with your teenager.
There will be times when there is no room for compromise.
But if there is never any room for negotiation, if your teen gets used to walking away empty handed, then you are setting them up to take matters into their own hands.
Honesty is essential if you want to be a reliable resource for your teen, but this can be tricky.
If you can’t tolerate honesty in all areas of life you will facilitate your teen’s need to lie.By the time kids become teenagers telling lies to keep the peace or avoid trouble has become second nature. Your children develop a baseline level of acceptable lies or half-truths by watching you and how honestly you respond to situations in life.Expecting teenagers to open up and give you honest answers about how their day was or what problems they are facing can lead to disappointment if they constantly observe you cover up how you feel and respond with polite white lies. Being proactive about negotiating rules and boundaries with your teenager is one of the most effective ways to reduce negative relationship outcomes in families. As discussed in the previous post one of the reasons teenagers lie is because they think parents won’t listen to them.When you are feeling angry you will not think clearly, you will not listen well, and you are more likely to say things that inflame a situation rather than resolve it.Take some deep breaths, count to 10, have a cup of tea, talk things through with your partner, pray for strength, or go for walk.It is perfectly normal to get angry when you realize your teenager is lying to you. But don’t use your teenager as a means of getting your anger out.