Compared to the relatively snail-like pace of meeting someone IRL, getting to know them, becoming friends, and then maybe going on a date, the way things work online is crazy-fast.Here's a breakdown of how things might typically go in a given three-hour period I spend on a dating app: I learn someone exists, make small talk, ask a few personal get-to-know-you questions, flirt (with varying levels of subtlety), exchange numbers, and ask him out.There's hardly a single millennial alive who isn't an avid user of dating apps: They're a fast and easy way to meet hundreds of potential partners, or just an extremely effective method of procrastination.
Whether you're a newcomer to the world of online dating or a veteran like myself, here are seven things that often get left out of conversations about apps like Ok Cupid and Tinder — I don't mean to scare you off, but you should be aware that online dating isn't all love-at-first-sight (or awesome casual sex).
This will not come as a shock to anyone as entrenched in the online dating world as me, but it seems people rarely talk about the fact that actively using dating apps is hard effing work.
If you hit it off with someone immediately, it can be easy to get over-excited about your romantic future, which can lead to feelings developing at an abnormal pace.
Though this isn't true for everyone, I know that I've been an inappropriate level of 'heartbroken' after things ended with someone I'd really only known for a few weeks, strictly because of the accelerated nature of the relationship.
Lisa Becker is a romance writer whose previous novels include Click: An Online Love Story, Double Click and Right Click.
The books, about a young woman’s search for love online in Los Angeles, have been called, “a fast read that will keep you entertained,” “a fun, quick read for fans of Sex and the City,” and “hard to put down.” The first in the series was optioned for a major motion picture.The year is 2015, so our collective attachment to our phones is nothing we should be ashamed of at all.Whether we hate it or embrace it, technology has changed how we do just about everything, including dating.As Lisa’s grandmother used to say, “For every chair, there’s a rush.” Lisa is now happily married to a man she met online and lives in Manhattan Beach with him and their two daughters.So, if it happened for her, there’s hope for anyone!If you're someone who needs time to move into anything romantic, you might experience some culture shock when you start online dating.