I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian.
I have lived my entire life, barring the past 5 years of course, in Southern California.
More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.
Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game.
Medellin nightclubs are for dancing, so it’s very easy to go up to a woman in a noisy disco, put out your hand, gesture for her to take it, and start dancing.
The “gringo effect” is the reaction a foreign guy gets from girls here in Medellin.
It is an immediate sense of curiosity that some Colombian women have upon meeting a foreigner.
It is hard for one’s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self.
I have found that Medellin women, as in most parts of the world, love compliments and like it when a guy can make them laugh.
Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.” The only thing that makes me stand out to women here is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle! Regarldess, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage.